Thin Line Between Love… and Love (6)

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Apparently, loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things. You can start out doing both, but them the “in love” part fades away and all that’s left is the love you feel for them, but not to really be “in love” with them.

I don’t know how to quite describe it, but it makes sense. After a while, you stop loving the person like you used to, but you still love that person nonetheless. You care for the person and for that person’s well-being, but you’re no longer in love with that person. I guess it’s quite a subtle transaction but quite a large distinction.

So what do married couples go through? I believe that when you are married with someone, s/he may change what they do every day and somewhat change as a person. However, if his/her main principles still stand true, then there’s a chance to make it work. As long as the values and beliefs have not drastically changed, then it can work. Should the other person change along the duration of the marriage, then that’s where the fun starts up again because you get to fall back in love with your spouse.

But sometimes, some people aren’t so lucky. I just don’t want to be one of those people except I don’t know how to secure myself in that way. I don’t know if I’ll know that the person I want to marry (someday) will be the one. I want him to be. I want him to be the last person I’ll ever be with for the rest of my life. No divorces, no long-term separations, no shit like that. Once I’m married, I want to be married for life.

Honestly though, who really knows? Those who get married have that hope, that wish, but in the end, nobody really knows what the future brings and what will come your way.

So when you fall in love with someone, how do you know if that’s ever going to end? And if it does, then do you think it’s possible to still be with the person and still love the person at the same time despite how different the two emotions of love are?