Many of you have probably seen this before, but below is a short list of what children between the ages of four and eight said when asked, “What is love?”
- “When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”
- “When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know your name is safe in their mouth.”
- “Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”
- “Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”
- “Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”
- “Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”
- “Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”
- “Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”
- “When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.”
- “Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.”
- “You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”
Those are all examples of love, yes, but how can you tell for yourself? What’s the turning point that just makes you know that you love the other person? Is it good enough to only think that you do? What exactly makes you sure that this is the one? That no matter what happens between you two, you want to fight with your life to keep it together? Is it when you realized that you would take a bullet for them? Is it when you realize that even if s/he’s shitting in the other room, you still think it’s kind of cute? Is it when you just happen to be lying next to him/her and all you want to do is lie there forever listening to the heartbeat?
What is love?
Have you ever wondered what life would have been like had you not been at a particular place at a particular time with a particular person/group? Or even when it’s the right moment to bring something up, either a good or bad topic? The thing is, how do you know when? How do you know when it’s the right time for everything to be out in the open, when it’s the perfect moment to tell the other person how you could possibly feel?
When do you make that first move? Is it the right move? Are you in the right place? What if you make it and it ruins everything you’ve worked for? How do you tell the other person? Do you just say it? Do you make a special occasion of it? Do you just wing it? What goes on in your head? The other person’s head?
Or perhaps the right moment will just come when it’s ready to come?
(Despair people need not comment on this edit)
Edit: I’m letting you go. There’s no sense in hoping that you’ll reach out and you’ll try because it seems obvious that you’ve given up. I gave you the chance to do something and you did nothing. Absolutely nothing. At the end of the day, I’m just tired. I don’t need to be upset over this because lately, that’s all you seem to be doing. I stuck by you through a lot and always did my best to be a good friend. If my intentions and actions were ever unclear, then I’m sorry that you misinterpreted them.
I’m at the point now where I don’t care anymore. You could be snorting heroin and I still wouldn’t care. You could be a prostitute and I wouldn’t care. I’m done caring. You’ve claimed that I’ve hurt you, but nothing compares to the pain that you have caused me in the last two years. Nothing compares to finding out that the one person you once thought would be there through thick and thin would ever say that she didn’t care if the friendship died. So I guess it’s my turn now to say the same words.
What’s done is done. What has happened is too late to fix. Blame whoever you want, but just know that in the end, you could have done something. You could have tried harder, but you didn’t. Instead you found fault in me instead of confront me. Just know and remember that I did all I could to make you happy, to ensure that you were relatively happy, even through all of your complaining and unappreciative actions. Remember that I tried to keep this alive but you allowed for it to slip.
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Here’s some food for thought when you’re down and out:
Rainy days and sunny days are all part of what makes the week, right? But what if you have just a horrible week in which it rains throughout the days? Think of it this way: all of that water will help with the springtime growth and soon the beautiful flowers and trees will grow.
Recently, I realized that even the worst of all days can lead to something good. Even if it’s the most excruciating pain that you have to go through, it could always lead to something you’re so grateful to have. For example, let’s say you break a leg and get sent to the hospital. While you’re there, you happen to have an awesome roommate that changes your life for the better. However, had you not broken your leg, you would not have had the chance to befriend this wonderful person.
Or let’s say you wanted to join the Marines and for whatever reason, you needed to be discharged. Despite the fact that you really wanted to go through with all of the training and be able to take care of your loved ones, you had to leave. However, months later, you meet this incredible person that makes you feel (good) things that you never thought you were lucky enough to feel and now that you’ve met this person, you don’t want to let go. But, had you not been discharged from the Marines, you would not have come across this amazing (and possibly beautiful) person.
What I’m trying to say that everything happens for a reason, everything plays its own part to how you will go through your life. Good or bad factors, they make up your world. One good deed could lead to another good result or a bad one, but that bad one could later lead to something good.
So when you’re having a bad day, a bad week, or even a bad month, try to remember that one day, these horrible events could lead to something incredible.
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