Posted under: People

Happy Birthday to Boscardin!

Sexy - adjective; 1 : sexually suggestive or stimulating: EROTIC; 2 : generally attractive or interesting : APPEALING

How do you see sexy?

To me, I think a woman is sexy when she’s confident and she knows what she wants. She wears clothes that flatter her body, but don’t make her look trashy. Here are a few examples I found on MySpace that I think definitely do not make the woman look sexy (pictures will open in new window):
Bad #1, Bad #2, Bad #3, and Bad #4.

In #1, her shirt is way too low and actually makes her look a bit anorexic. The shirt/dress doesn’t flatter her body at all and looks like she was trying too hard. In #2, she’s practically baring what she’s got, and acts as if a seductive smile and hand-covered breasts make her look hot… but it doesn’t. In #3, yes, she has large breasts, but to put them up that much makes them look too flashy, too gaudy, and most of all fake. Whether or not they’re real, they should be treated with some respect, not shown for all the world to see. In #4, she’s leaning forward, trying to use her breasts as methods of seduction, to allure the audience.

Why are people so obsessed with breasts? (I admit it, I have breast envy too, but that’s beside the point)

Luckily, I was able to find good examples that definitely flatter the woman:
Good #1, Good #2, Good #3, and Good #4.

See, #1 is not exactly a size 2, but the way she wears the dress compliments her figure well. #2 works her image with the accessories. The way she holds the glasses covering a part of her eyes gives us a sense that she’s a bit mysterious and a bit alluring. #3 has a nice figure, yet does not bare all. She leaves a bit of cleavage and the rest for imagination. #4 knows how to emphasize her features. The belt helps create a figure and although you get the hint of a large chest area, they’re not hanging out for all to see.

Yes, you are free to disagree with any of these pictures.

I suppose that my main point is that women these days feel as if they need to have large breasts, a large ass, or a skinny waist in order to feel sexy, but that’s so far from the truth. It’s all about feeling confident in your skin and knowing that you don’t have to show it all to get the looks and to feel attractive. I’ll admit that I don’t have the best figure: I’ve got my baby fat lounging around and my thighs are huge, but hey, I’ll put on a pair of jeans and a nice shirt that shows a little neck and I’ll feel great.

Moral of the post? Women, please don’t feel that you need to put your best assets up front in order to get attention. Be confident in your skin, in your body and find clothes that flatter what you want to emphasize. If you’ve got great legs, then find a good pair of pants that accentuate that. If you’ve got a great set of breasts, then find a top that flatters that without having them hang out and gasp for air (that means don’t squish them).

And men, please try not to make women feel that they need to show their bodies just to get your attention. Be interested in something else besides a pretty ass. (Though I’m not saying that all men are like this, by the way)

In the end, what you choose to do is your own choice. If you’re happy showing it all, then go ahead. I just wish that you wouldn’t feel the need to show so much when showing so little can often have the same impact.

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(Despair readers must reference both parts of this blog)

(Contest) Review: The Symposium

So my lovely friend, Joana, runs this book review site called The Symposium. The site is easy to navigate and offers much more than it seems. She gives you a list of upcoming reviews, recommended readings, and even allows you to recommend a book for her to read through the contact form. With this site, she writes reviews for books she’s read, offering a brief synopsis and an explanation as to why the book received such a rating.

For example, her review for Go Ask Malice offers a quick summary of the text and then quickly dives into why she’s skeptical about such a book. However, she does forget to mention the reference of the title Go Ask Malice to the anonymous teen-read Go Ask Alice. It would have been nice if Joana could figure out if there were similarities between the two characters, “Alice” and Faith.

Through another review, The Stepford Wives, Joana offers again the brief summary and jumps right into the meat of the book. Notice that she only tells a bit of the story, never giving away the ending of the story nor the obstacles of the protagonist(s). Instead, she talks about what makes the text a good work, such as the author’s strategy and work.

The Symposium offers readers the truth; the reviews will tell you what makes the text a worthwhile read and why it doesn’t. If you happen to be a book fanatic and have the time, check out The Symposium for a list of good reads.

Tags: beauty, breasts, MySpace, naked, nudity, sex, stupid people, women

Posted under: Relationships

Quick site updates: Boscardin’s first anniversary is coming soon and for that, I’m doing a major site revamp including a new layout. Right now, the site runs on both Wordpress and manual pages (as I like to call them). The revamp will make this site run mostly by Wordpress, so I’m in the process of converting everything. I did a cleanup of those hosted here and I’ve kept about five active and added two new ones. Anyway, stick around the next couple of weeks to see the new site!

(Back to the good stuff now…)

Recently, I had a friend contact me just to say hello, to see how I was doing, and to apologize for having left me hanging. I wrote a “last letter” type of thing a while back on this post.

Anyway, when she first sent me that IM, I was hesitant. I didn’t know how I should reply: Should I be cold and unresponsive, or should I try and be relatively friendly? Well, I chose the latter and made small talk with her. It wasn’t as much as I would have said if I didn’t hold so much animosity, but it was more than a cold shoulder.

So this got me thinking then about relationships and friendships in general. There comes a time in your life when you realize that the person you thought was going to be there, isn’t there anymore or that person just happened to have taken a blade, sliced your bloody heart out and hung it to dry. For many, that can create feelings of hate, betrayal, distrust, and much more.

My question then is whether or not you should ever accept this person back into your life again. Yes, people can change for the better, but does it help lessen the hurt and pain you went through? You can get over it and move on, but the relationship will never be the same as it once had been. It will never hold its full glory and shine like the best jewels. But will you accept this person who has caused so much pain in your life, heart, and soul back?

Sure, many will say to give this person another chance, but what if you already had? Maybe the better question is whether or not you want this person back into your life? What if you’re indifferent about this person now? Then, does it make a difference? Should you continue to be amiable to this person when s/he initiates contact?

How long do you hold that grudge? How long do you choose to remember the pain?

What if that person is no longer holding the knife, but you are?

Tags: friend, mistakes, past, People, relationship