Comments on: Has The Knife Been Removed Yet? http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/ Wed, 30 Jun 2010 01:09:07 +0000 hourly 1 By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1419 Maria Sat, 21 Apr 2007 20:25:44 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1419 @Lizzie It's okay; it didn't seem right that you skipped them all over, that's all. You did what you thought you had to do best. Don't worry too much about it. @Jack If it were the first or second time, I would have risked it and in fact, I did. If there's any value left, then I can't see it. @Janelle It's not all that traumatic, but it does hurt quite a bit. @Mari I think I know why they're still hurt and I think that I'm just holding on longer than I should be, but it helps me remember to be careful next time. (You can see how unsure I am of it all with the "I think"s) @Lizzie
It’s okay; it didn’t seem right that you skipped them all over, that’s all.
You did what you thought you had to do best. Don’t worry too much about it.

@Jack
If it were the first or second time, I would have risked it and in fact, I did. If there’s any value left, then I can’t see it.

@Janelle
It’s not all that traumatic, but it does hurt quite a bit.

@Mari
I think I know why they’re still hurt and I think that I’m just holding on longer than I should be, but it helps me remember to be careful next time. (You can see how unsure I am of it all with the “I think”s)

]]> By: Mari http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1417 Mari Sat, 21 Apr 2007 18:53:53 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1417 Personally...no. Never let them back into your life. Then again, if you really think they've changed...maybe. You're right, it will never be the same. It's a very difficult thing to do, letting go of grudges. Very few people can do it completely. Sometimes grudges are there for a reason. When it's you holding the knife...then you ought to sit down and meditate, think it out as to why your feelings are still hurt. Mari has been thinking about this recently, too. Just didn't have a good enough answer until now. Personally…no. Never let them back into your life. Then again, if you really think they’ve changed…maybe.

You’re right, it will never be the same. It’s a very difficult thing to do, letting go of grudges. Very few people can do it completely. Sometimes grudges are there for a reason.

When it’s you holding the knife…then you ought to sit down and meditate, think it out as to why your feelings are still hurt.

Mari has been thinking about this recently, too. Just didn’t have a good enough answer until now.

]]> By: Janelle http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1416 Janelle Fri, 20 Apr 2007 07:13:34 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1416 <blockquote>@Janelle Time can only heal so much because you can still feel the pain years from now.</blockquote> Maybe, Maybe not. I guess that depends on the degree of the situation. If it's not that grave then, it's easy to forgive and forget. But if it's somewhat "traumatic", it's a different story :(

@Janelle
Time can only heal so much because you can still feel the pain years from now.

Maybe, Maybe not. I guess that depends on the degree of the situation. If it’s not that grave then, it’s easy to forgive and forget. But if it’s somewhat “traumatic”, it’s a different story :(

]]> By: Jack http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1415 Jack Fri, 20 Apr 2007 05:29:26 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1415 That's a really tough call, but I'd ask you if you think there'd be any value in this friendship. With me, I wouldn't really be able to trust them, and I have a hard time being friendly with people I can't trust or people who've hurt me. If that's not the case for you, I'd tell you to risk it. That’s a really tough call, but I’d ask you if you think there’d be any value in this friendship. With me, I wouldn’t really be able to trust them, and I have a hard time being friendly with people I can’t trust or people who’ve hurt me. If that’s not the case for you, I’d tell you to risk it.

]]> By: Lizzie http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1414 Lizzie Thu, 19 Apr 2007 20:17:00 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1414 Sorry, I had to go but I read them. Last week I started to hate one of my best friends. And I realised that nothing is for ever, that is said, one year before I told her thet if we fought, we had to forget that and keep being best friends, and now I hate her. She talks to me like I'm nothing and I don't too... whether I had to be cold and be mad. Or talk her gently like if she was being my friend... I know that she drop it, but I'm still with the knife. I know that she can get the knife again... I'm really sorry. That paragraphs are important. Sorry sorry sorry. Sorry, I had to go but I read them.
Last week I started to hate one of my best friends. And I realised that nothing is for ever, that is said, one year before I told her thet if we fought, we had to forget that and keep being best friends, and now I hate her. She talks to me like I’m nothing and I don’t too… whether I had to be cold and be mad. Or talk her gently like if she was being my friend… I know that she drop it, but I’m still with the knife. I know that she can get the knife again… I’m really sorry. That paragraphs are important. Sorry sorry sorry.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1412 Maria Thu, 19 Apr 2007 09:13:30 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1412 @Carla "...look at what kind of friendship/relationship you will have..." ^ It won't be the same and will probably be filled with drama. Yes, I will move on. @Alicia Thank you for updating. And I've been doing swell. :) @Carla
“…look at what kind of friendship/relationship you will have…”
^ It won’t be the same and will probably be filled with drama.
Yes, I will move on.

@Alicia
Thank you for updating. And I’ve been doing swell. :)

]]> By: Alicia http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1409 Alicia Thu, 19 Apr 2007 04:38:27 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1409 Hey, I've been so busy lately thatI haven't found much time to comment you. Lovely site, as expected. How have you been? Also, about the WAK Q&A I'll be updating it asap. Hey, I’ve been so busy lately thatI haven’t found much time to comment you. Lovely site, as expected. How have you been? Also, about the WAK Q&A I’ll be updating it asap.

]]> By: Carla http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1407 Carla Thu, 19 Apr 2007 00:43:55 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1407 That's a lot of great questions, and I think it all depends on whether or not you really want to try again. Also, having said that, you have to look at what kind of friendship/relationship you will have if you do give them another chance. It will never be the same, but in some cases it could be something worth having still. Also it could be best just to be civil when you're around her and go on with your life. I'm sure that your decision will be the right one for you, and that's what matters. That’s a lot of great questions, and I think it all depends on whether or not you really want to try again. Also, having said that, you have to look at what kind of friendship/relationship you will have if you do give them another chance. It will never be the same, but in some cases it could be something worth having still. Also it could be best just to be civil when you’re around her and go on with your life. I’m sure that your decision will be the right one for you, and that’s what matters.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1406 Maria Wed, 18 Apr 2007 18:43:02 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1406 @Angel You make it sound so easy just to kind of get on with life. I guess, in a sense it is, but at the same time, I keep catching myself looking back and thinking about all the stuff. @A Random Guy "I know this may probably mean nothing" <em>You don't know enough about me to make that kind of assumption or analysis.</em> "...does care for you" <em>I never said that she didn't.</em> "She may have said some things but who doesn't during an argument?" <em>Oh no. There was never an argument to begin with for things to be said. Things were said behind my back that through my shady actions, I found out. Even after the first incident, I got through it and let her back in just to see it all happen again.</em> "All she wants to do is at least have peace with you." <em>She can have my civility. That's as much as I'm going to give her for now.</em> @Angel
You make it sound so easy just to kind of get on with life. I guess, in a sense it is, but at the same time, I keep catching myself looking back and thinking about all the stuff.

@A Random Guy
“I know this may probably mean nothing”
You don’t know enough about me to make that kind of assumption or analysis.
“…does care for you”
I never said that she didn’t.
“She may have said some things but who doesn’t during an argument?”
Oh no. There was never an argument to begin with for things to be said. Things were said behind my back that through my shady actions, I found out. Even after the first incident, I got through it and let her back in just to see it all happen again.
“All she wants to do is at least have peace with you.”
She can have my civility. That’s as much as I’m going to give her for now.

]]> By: A random guy http://www.boscardin.org/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1405 A random guy Wed, 18 Apr 2007 09:39:13 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/content/blog/2007/has-the-knife-been-removed-yet/#comment-1405 Hey I know this may probably mean nothing, but your former best friend does care for you, even though all the ish you two have been through and you guys stopped talking. She has never stopped caring. She may have said some things but who doesn't during an argument? And yeah all she wants to do is at least have peace with you. Hey I know this may probably mean nothing, but your former best friend does care for you, even though all the ish you two have been through and you guys stopped talking. She has never stopped caring. She may have said some things but who doesn’t during an argument? And yeah all she wants to do is at least have peace with you.

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