It Slapped Me Again (8)

19.01.07

Posted under: Life, Relationships, Thoughts

I apologize for the lack of updating lately. School started on Tuesday and by the end of the day, I was swamped. I still have a load to finish so we’ll see how often I update in the next couple weeks. Coming back to Berkeley is fun and exciting, but it’s also waking me up again since now I’ve so much more to do. I thought the first slap from Fall 2005 was rough… I think this is just as tough or tougher.

Anyway, there’s not too much to update besides school work I suppose. I’m really happy with everything right now and especially happy with my relationship to Stockton Boy. Things are… I don’t know how to describe it. Of course, things are always going to be different because who wants to be in a relationship that’s the same as something else, right? But things are… I don’t know. I think the main thing is that we try our best not to hide things from each other, or I try to at least. The best thing is that I completely trust him. It’s been hard lately for me to do that and it took quite some time for me to be able to say this for Stockton Boy. Either way, I’m happy. Life is pretty again.

Now here’s the philosophical point: Why is it that in order for many people to appreciate what they have is when they’ve gone through something horrible? Why do people need that contrast to be able to say that one is better than the other? Does the world really need that comparison? In all honesty, people do. Most go through life knowing that they are blessed, but few truly appreciate all of it.

Say for example you’re eating a mango that’s completely unripe and sour. It’s a bad mango, right? Later on you have another mango that is sweeter and juicier. You appreciate that mango a lot more than you would have had you not had the bad mango. Okay, so switch it around. Let’s say you each the juicy mango first. You understand that you had a good mango, but you don’t truly savor each moment. Then you have another mango just to find out it’s terrible. Now you know that the first had been a really good mango.

Does that make sense?

Anyway, my point is that people are so wrapped up in other things that until something goes bad, then do they really start feeling more appreciative of what’s around them. True there are those who are truly grateful only from observing the misfortunes of others, but for the majority, that’s how many live.

It’s just a good thing to wonder sometimes though when you’ve gone through something bad and somebody good comes along. If that good somebody had come first, would you have had the same level of appreciation for that person? Or would you have known that that person was a good person, but without the comparison of a bad person, you couldn’t truly be grateful for the good person.

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Julie expressed:

Saturday, January 20, 2007 @ 10:29 pm GMT-8

It does make sense and you’re right. Us humans, we’re just hard to please. We’re only happy when we compare things to something that sucked. Otherwise, something great might not be good enough cause what if something is better? We suck hah. But anyway, good luck with Stockton boy. I hope you have a much better experience here. Trust is #1 importance, and I’m glad to see you have that with him
Syaz replied:

Monday, January 29, 2007 @ 6:56 am GMT-8

I guess there are people out there who take things for granted without realizing it. For example: me. :dead: thanks for the wake up call. :biggrin:
Nika declared:

Monday, January 29, 2007 @ 11:02 pm GMT-8

Hi there! ^^

School is driving me nuts too. It’s eating up most of my teenage life.

About that philosophical point.. I agree with you. It’s like.. appreciating the ugly ones because without them, you’ll not know what pretty is. On a more serious point, it’s just the same as making mistakes. Without making mistakes, we will never learn, we will never know what the right thing is. That’s totally human nature.

Nice post. ^^
♥ Nika
Mari expressed:

Tuesday, January 30, 2007 @ 11:46 pm GMT-8

That philosophical point should strike a chord in every commentator, hopefully.

Being raised in a financially lacking situation, I’m very familiar with this concept. It’s most often phrased as “Only those who have wanted will give to those who are in need.” It seems that humans in general have to have their minds opened by a bad experience to know what a good one is. More than likely, no one is exempt from this. It’s a learning process, one of the most basic.
Katie shouted:

Wednesday, January 31, 2007 @ 2:20 pm GMT-8

Love the layout. no seriously, you’ve got mad skills. Lol, that was my ‘rapspeak’ for a second. And philosophy point is very well made. People truly do not appreciate everything they have. Even me. I know it’s hard to believe. :cute:
Danielle announced:

Friday, February 2, 2007 @ 1:30 pm GMT-8

School seems like it’s swamping you, but its a good experience and life; remember that. But yeah, life is a misunderstood journey we all go through and I’m guilty to not appreciating things. Such as an exboyfriend that recently passed, I didn’t start thinking of him nor appreciating him until he passed. Now I feel like crap. Now i’m appreciating the little things people do for me.:sad:
I completely understand you Miss Maria! :upsidedown:
Melissa typed:

Saturday, February 3, 2007 @ 8:03 pm GMT-8

Sorry that school has you so busyâ€¦ I feel the same way and it’s tough. Your mango metaphor really made me thinkâ€¦ I didn’t really realize how ungrateful I am sometimes until now. But mostly, I do appreciate things for what they areâ€¦ things are kinda rough at home so when someone smiles at me at school or just does a simple gesture of kindness, I definitely appreciate it. I wasn’t really like that until the problems started. But I guess that’s just human nature. Anyway, take care!
Lori stated:

Monday, February 5, 2007 @ 12:18 pm GMT-8

Wow, you’ve totally described my feelings right now. Until recently, I’ve complained a lot about my life, but now there might be a huge earthquake where I live, and now I wish I could have appreciated everything more. Good luck with everything!