The Factors Of Life (17)

06.02.07

Posted under: Relationships, Thoughts

(Despair people need not comment on this edit)

Edit: I’m letting you go. There’s no sense in hoping that you’ll reach out and you’ll try because it seems obvious that you’ve given up. I gave you the chance to do something and you did nothing. Absolutely nothing. At the end of the day, I’m just tired. I don’t need to be upset over this because lately, that’s all you seem to be doing. I stuck by you through a lot and always did my best to be a good friend. If my intentions and actions were ever unclear, then I’m sorry that you misinterpreted them.

I’m at the point now where I don’t care anymore. You could be snorting heroin and I still wouldn’t care. You could be a prostitute and I wouldn’t care. I’m done caring. You’ve claimed that I’ve hurt you, but nothing compares to the pain that you have caused me in the last two years. Nothing compares to finding out that the one person you once thought would be there through thick and thin would ever say that she didn’t care if the friendship died. So I guess it’s my turn now to say the same words.

What’s done is done. What has happened is too late to fix. Blame whoever you want, but just know that in the end, you could have done something. You could have tried harder, but you didn’t. Instead you found fault in me instead of confront me. Just know and remember that I did all I could to make you happy, to ensure that you were relatively happy, even through all of your complaining and unappreciative actions. Remember that I tried to keep this alive but you allowed for it to slip.

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Here’s some food for thought when you’re down and out:

Rainy days and sunny days are all part of what makes the week, right? But what if you have just a horrible week in which it rains throughout the days? Think of it this way: all of that water will help with the springtime growth and soon the beautiful flowers and trees will grow.

Recently, I realized that even the worst of all days can lead to something good. Even if it’s the most excruciating pain that you have to go through, it could always lead to something you’re so grateful to have. For example, let’s say you break a leg and get sent to the hospital. While you’re there, you happen to have an awesome roommate that changes your life for the better. However, had you not broken your leg, you would not have had the chance to befriend this wonderful person.

Or let’s say you wanted to join the Marines and for whatever reason, you needed to be discharged. Despite the fact that you really wanted to go through with all of the training and be able to take care of your loved ones, you had to leave. However, months later, you meet this incredible person that makes you feel (good) things that you never thought you were lucky enough to feel and now that you’ve met this person, you don’t want to let go. But, had you not been discharged from the Marines, you would not have come across this amazing (and possibly beautiful) person.

What I’m trying to say that everything happens for a reason, everything plays its own part to how you will go through your life. Good or bad factors, they make up your world. One good deed could lead to another good result or a bad one, but that bad one could later lead to something good.

So when you’re having a bad day, a bad week, or even a bad month, try to remember that one day, these horrible events could lead to something incredible.

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17 Comments »

Laura stated:

Tuesday, February 6, 2007 @ 12:11 pm GMT-8

That’s definitely a very good moral to have, I need to think like that more sometimes.
Stockton Boy answered:

Tuesday, February 6, 2007 @ 4:17 pm GMT-8

This sounds all too familiar. It ties along with your previous post about appreciation.
Jessica commented:

Tuesday, February 6, 2007 @ 4:18 pm GMT-8

Thanks for reminding me that all the pain is worth it in the end. Sometimes I have a tendency to forget that.
Raven commented:

Wednesday, February 7, 2007 @ 5:17 am GMT-8

I could not agree with you more! It’s amazing to think back at how your past moves in a chain-link-like pattern…one chain (or event) leading to another through a type of connection. I strongly believe in things happening for a reason. Be it for lessons learned or taught, people met, items gained, etc.
Julie answered:

Wednesday, February 7, 2007 @ 9:25 pm GMT-8

Dang, that was almost too cheerful, even for me haha. You’re right though, things could be worse, and things happen for a reason. But sometimes, it just doesn’t seem like there is a reason, or that things are fair.
Kristina commented:

Thursday, February 8, 2007 @ 12:12 am GMT-8

It’s been raining for a few days here… I like the rain tho. Fun to drive in it.. :yuck:
Monica said:

Friday, February 9, 2007 @ 3:08 am GMT-8

Aw sweet! Just reading that has added that little extra bit of sunshine in my day. It’s true what they say, cheerfulness is infectious!
Aenka announced:

Friday, February 9, 2007 @ 9:52 am GMT-8

This is such an uplifting entry–thanks for sharing it with everyone! It really made me think about how negatively I treat bad days/emotions, when in fact there really IS an upside to most everything.
Miranda said:

Saturday, February 10, 2007 @ 5:18 pm GMT-8

You’re right – everything’s connected and everything has an impact on our lives and things around us… sometimes when you’re going through the bad stuff though it’s hard to imagine anything good coming from it lol It would be really nice to be able to keep that sort of mindset throughout life though
Charity declared:

Sunday, February 11, 2007 @ 10:43 am GMT-8

You have a point there. Everything happens for a reason.
Britney commented:

Sunday, February 11, 2007 @ 4:19 pm GMT-8

I’ve noticed that as well so whenever something bad happens I always think something good will happen soon to balance it out.
Julie declared:

Monday, February 12, 2007 @ 6:11 am GMT-8

Ouch that edit is quite sad Who is it about?
Mari shouted:

Wednesday, February 14, 2007 @ 2:02 pm GMT-8

Same as what Julie said (and sorry if I’m being nosy, but I can relate). Gawsh, that edit reminds me of losing my last long-time friend…

Hopefully you’re doing better than when you wrote that edit now. You seemed rather bitter that your friend didn’t do anything to save the relationship.

Also, I happened to pass by your daily journal, and wow, you’re daring to allow comments on it. I’m still too insecure to even try letting people comment on my actual thoughts.

I’m adding you to my blogroll because you’ve been such an excellent commentator. And I do very much hope to see a new post on this site soon. Your posts are always so much more entertaining than my daily RSS-feed regurgitation. =)
Maddi replied:

Sunday, February 18, 2007 @ 11:31 pm GMT-8

Hey Maria – you havent been on MSN for a while and i’d just like to say that i’d like to close Kiwiheart down.

Plz delete it frm your server =]

I dont have enough time for it, sooo sorry!!

Thanks for being the bestest hostess everr!!

xoxo

Maddi.
Shannon announced:

Monday, February 19, 2007 @ 12:32 am GMT-8

I tagged you!
The game: Each player of this game starts off with ten weird things or habits or little known facts about yourself. People who get tagged must write in a blog of their own ten weird things or habits or little known facts as well as state this rule clearly. At the end you must choose six people to be tagged and list their names. No tag backs!
Faza announced:

Monday, February 19, 2007 @ 5:37 am GMT-8

Yeah, I believe too that everything is connected. Like your positive attitude.
Bethy declared:

Monday, February 19, 2007 @ 10:23 am GMT-8

[Aside from the edit] That entry was lovely. I agree with everything you said, but I guess sometimes it’s just rather difficult to stay positive when you’re having a really crappy time .
As for the edit, I’m sorry for whatever’s happened. I went through a period like that with one of my friends, but after several blazing rows we got through it and things are much better now. I hope everything works out for you.
I love the way you write btw; very eloquent =]