The Sad Naked Truth
23.04.07
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Sexy - adjective; 1 : sexually suggestive or stimulating: EROTIC; 2 : generally attractive or interesting : APPEALING
How do you see sexy?
To me, I think a woman is sexy when she’s confident and she knows what she wants. She wears clothes that flatter her body, but don’t make her look trashy. Here are a few examples I found on MySpace that I think definitely do not make the woman look sexy (pictures will open in new window):
Bad #1, Bad #2, Bad #3, and Bad #4.
In #1, her shirt is way too low and actually makes her look a bit anorexic. The shirt/dress doesn’t flatter her body at all and looks like she was trying too hard. In #2, she’s practically baring what she’s got, and acts as if a seductive smile and hand-covered breasts make her look hot… but it doesn’t. In #3, yes, she has large breasts, but to put them up that much makes them look too flashy, too gaudy, and most of all fake. Whether or not they’re real, they should be treated with some respect, not shown for all the world to see. In #4, she’s leaning forward, trying to use her breasts as methods of seduction, to allure the audience.
Why are people so obsessed with breasts? (I admit it, I have breast envy too, but that’s beside the point)
Luckily, I was able to find good examples that definitely flatter the woman:
Good #1, Good #2, Good #3, and Good #4.
See, #1 is not exactly a size 2, but the way she wears the dress compliments her figure well. #2 works her image with the accessories. The way she holds the glasses covering a part of her eyes gives us a sense that she’s a bit mysterious and a bit alluring. #3 has a nice figure, yet does not bare all. She leaves a bit of cleavage and the rest for imagination. #4 knows how to emphasize her features. The belt helps create a figure and although you get the hint of a large chest area, they’re not hanging out for all to see.
Yes, you are free to disagree with any of these pictures.
I suppose that my main point is that women these days feel as if they need to have large breasts, a large ass, or a skinny waist in order to feel sexy, but that’s so far from the truth. It’s all about feeling confident in your skin and knowing that you don’t have to show it all to get the looks and to feel attractive. I’ll admit that I don’t have the best figure: I’ve got my baby fat lounging around and my thighs are huge, but hey, I’ll put on a pair of jeans and a nice shirt that shows a little neck and I’ll feel great.
Moral of the post? Women, please don’t feel that you need to put your best assets up front in order to get attention. Be confident in your skin, in your body and find clothes that flatter what you want to emphasize. If you’ve got great legs, then find a good pair of pants that accentuate that. If you’ve got a great set of breasts, then find a top that flatters that without having them hang out and gasp for air (that means don’t squish them).
And men, please try not to make women feel that they need to show their bodies just to get your attention. Be interested in something else besides a pretty ass. (Though I’m not saying that all men are like this, by the way)
In the end, what you choose to do is your own choice. If you’re happy showing it all, then go ahead. I just wish that you wouldn’t feel the need to show so much when showing so little can often have the same impact.
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(Despair readers must reference both parts of this blog)
(Contest) Review: The Symposium
So my lovely friend, Joana, runs this book review site called The Symposium. The site is easy to navigate and offers much more than it seems. She gives you a list of upcoming reviews, recommended readings, and even allows you to recommend a book for her to read through the contact form. With this site, she writes reviews for books she’s read, offering a brief synopsis and an explanation as to why the book received such a rating.
For example, her review for Go Ask Malice offers a quick summary of the text and then quickly dives into why she’s skeptical about such a book. However, she does forget to mention the reference of the title Go Ask Malice to the anonymous teen-read Go Ask Alice. It would have been nice if Joana could figure out if there were similarities between the two characters, “Alice” and Faith.
Through another review, The Stepford Wives, Joana offers again the brief summary and jumps right into the meat of the book. Notice that she only tells a bit of the story, never giving away the ending of the story nor the obstacles of the protagonist(s). Instead, she talks about what makes the text a good work, such as the author’s strategy and work.
The Symposium offers readers the truth; the reviews will tell you what makes the text a worthwhile read and why it doesn’t. If you happen to be a book fanatic and have the time, check out The Symposium for a list of good reads.
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Tags: beauty, breasts, MySpace, naked, nudity, sex, stupid people, women
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Julie said:
Monday, April 23, 2007 @ 10:15 pm GMT-8
AGREED 100% with what you said!!! Yea, people try to slut it up too much cause they think slutty = sexy but really slutty = skanky and nasty to me. I think a sophisticated confident photo is way more sexy. But that’s cause you and me, we’re real women, not trashy little girls.
Bekka expressed:
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 @ 12:20 am GMT-8
One thing that struck me about the *bad* images was the over emphasis of make-up. The girl in #2, god, someone help the poor thing with that eyeshadow, damn. The concept that simply wearing makeup makes you more attractive is just as intoxicating as the idea of showing cleavage and a lot of leg. If you wer enough black eyeliner you’re instantly hot! Oy, women.
Emily declared:
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 @ 3:38 am GMT-8
I agree a lot of women that do post pictures of themselves on the net, for some reason need to show off skin to get attention when they don’t realize that their own beauty should be enough. Will they ever learn? Who knows!
Elizabeth declared:
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 @ 5:46 pm GMT-8
So true. This is a wonderful post, I wish all girls would see it.
Nicole replied:
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 @ 8:31 pm GMT-8
I agree with everything that you have written and stated.
And as what Elizabeth had said, I wish all the girls would see it too.
True, confidence is the key!
Julie replied:
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 @ 10:11 pm GMT-8
I completely agree with everything you said and stated up above as well. I couldn’t have said it any better!
Carla announced:
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 @ 10:40 pm GMT-8
This is a good serious post! And you’re descriptions and pictures choices worked perfectly. It’s definitely about choosing clothing that flatters your body without exposing too much. And really, when I’m looking my best I’m very rarely showing anything other then my arms lol.
Maria remarked:
Tuesday, April 24, 2007 @ 10:56 pm GMT-8
@Julie
Real women rock and kick ass.
@Bekka
Yeah, #2’s makeup just was not very good for her. Black eyeliner can work only if done right. See, I use it for lining only, not for smudging purposes. Some of the smudging out there gets a little ridiculous. Bah.
@Emily
I don’t think many women will. Sadly, I think it will worsen.
@Elizabeth
Even if they do, they’d probably get defensive first and then realize later on how trashy they looked.
@Nicole
Yup. Confidence works, but there is a line where confidence becomes unattractive arrogance and a bit egocentric.
@Julie
Thanks!
@Carla
Flattering clothing > skanky, ho-like clothing.
Thank you.
TEE stated:
Wednesday, April 25, 2007 @ 6:46 am GMT-8
So true. I agree with everything, everything.
Mari remarked:
Wednesday, April 25, 2007 @ 8:12 pm GMT-8
Mari agrees with Julie.
Also, if you look at the girls who are wearing flattering clothes, you’ll notice they have just as much if not more confidence than the ones that are wearing unflattering clothing.
Girls need some common sense. Letting it all hang out does not mean you’re mature. It just means you know how to set your standards low. You’re not going to be taken seriously if you dress like that.
Margaret commented:
Thursday, April 26, 2007 @ 1:34 pm GMT-8
Note: you = collective you, not specifically one person.
Eh, I say live and let live. Sure, you may not like what she wears, but she doesn’t in the slightest bit have a responsibility to wear clothes deemed acceptable/sexy by either your or society’s standards. Nor does she have a responsibility to wear clothes that flatter her figure. Sure, most feel better when they do, but who are we to assume all people are the same?
I don’t like when women wear overly skimpy outfits myself. But I leave it at that: that I don’t like it. I’m not going to condemn her or call her a skank (I don’t think it’s EVER ok to call a girl a skank or whore or slut. EVER. Especially with something like FASHION!), I’m not even going to tell her that she’d be oh so much sexier if she changed her ways.
Now, when women feel like they NEED to show it all off to be sexy (or even that they need to be sexy all the time), well, I don’t know what to say. But still, live and let live. ‘Tis all you can do.
Margaret voiced:
Friday, April 27, 2007 @ 4:03 am GMT-8
Ooh, forgot the / in the closing strong tag or something. >>
And I didn’t mean to imply anyone was being condemning or telling women what to do. I was stating my general “beliefs” if they can be called that. And perhaps some women who wear “trashy” stuff really like looking like that. They don’t feel the need to, they just like that. Hey, you never know.
And yeah, it’s nice to consider others and reactions when we dress, but not everyone cares. If the woman lives in a country like the U.S. she has the freedom not to care.
Jules wrote:
Friday, April 27, 2007 @ 2:58 pm GMT-8
This is why finding a great guy or great friends means a lot. You then become comfortable in your own skin. I know I currently am floating between a size 18 and a size 22, and Mike makes me feel attractive. I have a large and so-called “nice” chest, but what about my eyes? They’re beautifully green. My lips are plump. My arms are strong. There’s so many other features I’d rather accentuate and I still think they make me sexy too.
Mari typed:
Sunday, April 29, 2007 @ 10:09 pm GMT-8
Oh, Margaret’s comment is so true. It is wrong to say that a woman is a skank/tramp/what-have-you. It is her choice to dress like that, and other women really shouldn’t judge.
Mari really likes your review of The Symposium. You focused on the posts, and pointed out some good things Mari didn’t notice about the content. Good luck, Maria! Mari hopes you win! =D
Jenny expressed:
Sunday, April 29, 2007 @ 10:29 pm GMT-8
Interesting post. I completely agree with it all. I can’t really comment cause I’m as homely as they come and I hate slutty girls anyway.
Kate replied:
Monday, April 30, 2007 @ 5:11 am GMT-8
Yep, I definitely agree with you here! Especially the last good example, I love when girls are naturally sexy like that. It looks so much better, because I know the whole fake sexy thing, I can’t and wont achieve.
Brittany remarked:
Monday, April 30, 2007 @ 9:28 am GMT-8
Lovely layout mama, the header is something serious. Happy bday.
Ivory declared:
Monday, April 30, 2007 @ 4:39 pm GMT-8
I agree with you. I use to be one of those girls sad to say , it wasn’t so much as a whole trashed wardrobe..just my shirt , but as I got older.. i find it sexier to wear something like a dress that stops at the knee with a wide waist belt, and a nice pair of heels… as long as you model that outfit with confidence. I’ll go check out that website , even tho I don’t read much..
Maria responded:
Monday, April 30, 2007 @ 5:18 pm GMT-8
@Tee
Thanks.
@Mari
That is true about their level of confidence.
@Margaret
No no no, I don’t plan on calling them anything of that sort. If anything, I’ll say that she isn’t using her best judgment. Yes, some women enjoy looking like that and more than half of the time we can’t really do anything to change it.
@Jules
Exactly. No matter how skinny or big you are; you can still feel like a rockstar. Example: Jennifer Hudson.
@Mari
No we shouldn’t judge, but we do anyway.
I hope you win something too!
@Jenny
I wouldn’t necessarily call them “slutty” though.
@Kate
Fake sexy is not sexy… thus the word “fake.”
@Brittany
*sarcastically* Thanks for talking about blog.
@Ivory
It’s okay if you don’t read much. Lol
Sometimes, some revealing shirts are okay, but only if done right. Some women don’t and then they have their boobs squished together and hanging out. Gross.
Margaret stated:
Tuesday, May 1, 2007 @ 6:06 pm GMT-8
I didn’t think you were. I doubt anyone here would, or so I hope.
I just kinda randomly threw that out there; I know society in general seems to be awfully condemning of skimpy-outfit wearing folk, and I think that’s what I was thinking of when I wrote that.
Anyhow, yeah, just wanted to clear that up. I don’t always fully say what I mean or explain me thinking. Must change that!
Amy announced:
Thursday, May 3, 2007 @ 3:56 am GMT-8
MySpace sure has a lot of trashy images. I think it’s incredibly sad when women feel they have to show off certain parts of their body to feel sexy. I think one of my friends is incredibly sexy, and she is far from thin, but the way she carries herself is so sexy. She has so much confidence, and to me that is beautiful.
Michael answered:
Saturday, May 5, 2007 @ 4:34 pm GMT-8
Thanks for the comment. I totally agree on what you said.
Marielli answered:
Monday, May 7, 2007 @ 4:40 am GMT-8
Hello c”,) For me, the sexiest girls (and guys) are those who leave a lot to the imagination - you know, the ones with this mysterious aura. It really draws people to them. I felt that vibe with Girl #2
Vanessa responded:
Monday, May 7, 2007 @ 12:39 pm GMT-8
I honestly cannot show off like some women out there. I don’t feel comfortable enough to show them off. Anywho, I do get what you’re saying. Some girls just show off too much which is why other people call them skanks/sluts because they look like it. If they donut wanna be called that then they shouldn’t be looking like one in the first place.
Maria said:
Tuesday, May 8, 2007 @ 3:34 pm GMT-8
@Margaret
It’s okay. Just learn and grow from it? Lol.
@Amy
Your friend sounds like a wonderful icon.
@Michael
Err… thanks.
@Marielli
My thoughts exactly about Good #2.
@Vanessa
Often times, nobody tells them that to their face, so they don’t change.