Thin Line Between Love… and Love

09.01.07

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Apparently, loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things. You can start out doing both, but them the “in love” part fades away and all that’s left is the love you feel for them, but not to really be “in love” with them.

I don’t know how to quite describe it, but it makes sense. After a while, you stop loving the person like you used to, but you still love that person nonetheless. You care for the person and for that person’s well-being, but you’re no longer in love with that person. I guess it’s quite a subtle transaction but quite a large distinction.

So what do married couples go through? I believe that when you are married with someone, s/he may change what they do every day and somewhat change as a person. However, if his/her main principles still stand true, then there’s a chance to make it work. As long as the values and beliefs have not drastically changed, then it can work. Should the other person change along the duration of the marriage, then that’s where the fun starts up again because you get to fall back in love with your spouse.

But sometimes, some people aren’t so lucky. I just don’t want to be one of those people except I don’t know how to secure myself in that way. I don’t know if I’ll know that the person I want to marry (someday) will be the one. I want him to be. I want him to be the last person I’ll ever be with for the rest of my life. No divorces, no long-term separations, no shit like that. Once I’m married, I want to be married for life.

Honestly though, who really knows? Those who get married have that hope, that wish, but in the end, nobody really knows what the future brings and what will come your way.

So when you fall in love with someone, how do you know if that’s ever going to end? And if it does, then do you think it’s possible to still be with the person and still love the person at the same time despite how different the two emotions of love are?

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Tammie typed:

Wednesday, January 10, 2007 @ 1:29 am GMT-8

That’s actually something rather powerful to ponder, because I too hope to be married to only one in my lifetime. Life is sometimes complicated as are emotions, but in the end we can also play a part in our destiny. You never know what the future brings for us, but we also need to do our part to make sure it doesn’t fall to pieces. Though some things may be uncertain, you have the power of your life in your hands…
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Anna stated:

Thursday, January 11, 2007 @ 6:34 am GMT-8

thats a really interesting topic. ive thought about it alot. i just got out of a fantastic relationship only because we were too far apart ot do anything about it. but i totally get it. i may not be making sense right now, but i totally understand.
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Nadine commented:

Friday, January 12, 2007 @ 12:16 am GMT-8

this is a really interesting thing that I’ve just learnt.
perhaps I did go through this phrase. but if only people
can understand, you know?
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Thayo shouted:

Friday, January 12, 2007 @ 5:13 am GMT-8

I suppose it’s a matter of how different people choose to use their blogs and their style of writing in order to express themselves. Just as much as you didn’t understand my post, I wouldn’t be able to fully comprehend your past, your background in order to really appreciate your post either. Nor would I just want to dilute any of my feelings just to “cater” to any readers.

However, I believe, even if you can’t understand a person’s post, Despair allows you to at least get a glimpse of a person’s life, their background, the way they write. Which is why I enjoyed reading your post
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Amber expressed:

Saturday, January 13, 2007 @ 7:26 pm GMT-8

I have wondered the same thing many times. I think when you fall in love and your n love one just feel more powerful than the other. Like everyone says love trumps all but then being in love trumps falling in love? Well for instance I am in love with my boyfriend and I feel much closer than when I feel in love with him. so I guess if you think about it there’s a huge difference. Great choice of topic.
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Julie replied:

Sunday, January 14, 2007 @ 2:59 pm GMT-8

I guess you don’t really know, cause you can’t predict the future, but you can see how things have been to the point of marriage, and project it? If things have been great and you are happy and comfortable with each other, there’s no reason for that to change in the future.
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