Comments on: Excusing Anger http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/ Fri, 15 Jan 2010 13:31:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: kimba http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3099 kimba Thu, 10 Jul 2008 10:21:31 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3099 "every reaction is a decision. When you snap at someone, it’s still a choice you’re making." I totally agree with you ... this was a great post. “every reaction is a decision. When you snap at someone, it’s still a choice you’re making.” I totally agree with you … this was a great post.

]]> By: Gerald http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3098 Gerald Thu, 10 Jul 2008 03:03:12 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3098 Heya. I think that anger, like all of our emotions, is something we need to learn to control. Maybe those who are prone to anger do not have self control??? Or maybe it is a case of they have not learnt how to deal with the things that are causing them to become angry? Either way, it all ends up with someone getting hurt. I do not anger easily but when I do I generally leave whatever it is that is causing me to be angry then I calm myself down until I am not angry anymore. Maybe I do not anger easily because I do not take everything so seriously or maybe it is because I am very, very patient ... whatever it is I still think it all boils down to controlling your emotions. Heya. I think that anger, like all of our emotions, is something we need to learn to control. Maybe those who are prone to anger do not have self control??? Or maybe it is a case of they have not learnt how to deal with the things that are causing them to become angry? Either way, it all ends up with someone getting hurt.

I do not anger easily but when I do I generally leave whatever it is that is causing me to be angry then I calm myself down until I am not angry anymore. Maybe I do not anger easily because I do not take everything so seriously or maybe it is because I am very, very patient … whatever it is I still think it all boils down to controlling your emotions.

]]> By: fragileheart http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3093 fragileheart Tue, 08 Jul 2008 21:40:46 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3093 Hey Maria! Obviously I agree with you as (like you pointed out) I just wrote something on the topic. Being someone who used to excuse my anger all the time I know that for the most part, people just don't understand what's going on with their emotions when anger strikes - but it's our responsibility to understand and control! Great post :) Hey Maria! Obviously I agree with you as (like you pointed out) I just wrote something on the topic. Being someone who used to excuse my anger all the time I know that for the most part, people just don’t understand what’s going on with their emotions when anger strikes – but it’s our responsibility to understand and control! Great post :)

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3090 Maria Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:33:36 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3090 @Angelica I suppose that knowing who you can be angry to helps, but at the same time, it can hurt, can't it? I understand that these are people who will always be by you, but either way, it's not the best thing to experience. It's like what happened with my mother. Sure, she knew that I was always going to love her, but it didn't make it any better. @Angelica
I suppose that knowing who you can be angry to helps, but at the same time, it can hurt, can’t it? I understand that these are people who will always be by you, but either way, it’s not the best thing to experience. It’s like what happened with my mother. Sure, she knew that I was always going to love her, but it didn’t make it any better.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3089 Maria Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:31:49 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3089 @Karen I agree; usually when I let out my anger, I'm alone and I know that no one can see me in my vulnerable state. @Karen
I agree; usually when I let out my anger, I’m alone and I know that no one can see me in my vulnerable state.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3088 Maria Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:29:28 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3088 @Ramon That's a very good way to go about it, especially when it comes to children. Sometimes, I wish my father had taken the same steps, but it's okay. It's all in the past now. @Ramon
That’s a very good way to go about it, especially when it comes to children. Sometimes, I wish my father had taken the same steps, but it’s okay. It’s all in the past now.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3087 Maria Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:21:32 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3087 @Mara Yes, I'm always afraid of that; holding in grudges or annoyances until it gets too far. Right now, I'm trying to deal with an aggravating roommate, but I can't seem to find the way to express myself right and I'm afraid that if I wait too long, I'll blow up at some point. @Mara
Yes, I’m always afraid of that; holding in grudges or annoyances until it gets too far. Right now, I’m trying to deal with an aggravating roommate, but I can’t seem to find the way to express myself right and I’m afraid that if I wait too long, I’ll blow up at some point.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3086 Maria Tue, 08 Jul 2008 09:20:04 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3086 @Billy I'm not exactly sure how to interpret that comment... is it really because you're drunk or is it a response as an example? @Billy
I’m not exactly sure how to interpret that comment… is it really because you’re drunk or is it a response as an example?

]]> By: Angelica http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3084 Angelica Mon, 07 Jul 2008 22:14:55 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3084 I agree with you on this. Just because you're angry behaving badly shouldn't be excused. I can be very mean when I'm angry but just towards people I know will forgive me no matter what (my family) or people I don't care about (strangers). I'm more careful when it comes to friends and I never say things I'll regret later to them. I agree with you on this. Just because you’re angry behaving badly shouldn’t be excused. I can be very mean when I’m angry but just towards people I know will forgive me no matter what (my family) or people I don’t care about (strangers). I’m more careful when it comes to friends and I never say things I’ll regret later to them.

]]> By: Karen Zemek http://www.boscardin.org/2008/excusing-anger/#comment-3082 Karen Zemek Mon, 07 Jul 2008 15:33:10 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=491#comment-3082 Always better to control our anger. Anything we say when we are angry is never good! Check out my <a href="http://zemeks.blogspot.com/2008/07/what-to-do-when-your-husband-gets-on.html" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">post</a> on what I do when my husband gets on my nerves. It's good to let it out, but I find it works best doing it in private--while driving alone in a car or in your house when you're home alone. Always better to control our anger. Anything we say when we are angry is never good! Check out my post on what I do when my husband gets on my nerves. It’s good to let it out, but I find it works best doing it in private–while driving alone in a car or in your house when you’re home alone.

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