Comments on: Inability to Love http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/ Fri, 15 Jan 2010 13:31:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jenn http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-11787 Jenn Fri, 28 Aug 2009 05:21:46 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-11787 It is hard when we give our time and energy hoping they will love us. But you gave away your time and energy, you only have control of your choices and noticing that he was staying at arms length is something you could've done for yourself to not waste too much time. Now you know and no amount of fixing ever helps anyone. It is codepdendent. We have to love ourselves first and foremost, others no one we want to be with is right and it won't be healthy. Self care girlfirend. You will attract a better level when you are better to yourself. It is hard when we give our time and energy hoping they will love us. But you gave away your time and energy, you only have control of your choices and noticing that he was staying at arms length is something you could’ve done for yourself to not waste too much time. Now you know and no amount of fixing ever helps anyone. It is codepdendent. We have to love ourselves first and foremost, others no one we want to be with is right and it won’t be healthy. Self care girlfirend. You will attract a better level when you are better to yourself.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3568 Maria Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:22:00 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3568 @Dizzy Yeah, taking some time to cool off or just staying away from serious relationships is something I need. I know, we were both at fault for the breakup; it was just a whole mess of things I suppose that I kept turning my eye away from. @Dizzy
Yeah, taking some time to cool off or just staying away from serious relationships is something I need.

I know, we were both at fault for the breakup; it was just a whole mess of things I suppose that I kept turning my eye away from.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3567 Maria Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:18:20 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3567 @asrai It's hard to be alone. There's one thing I learned in Social Welfare and that's the importance of having human relationships, either platonic or romantic relationships. When you've got no friends and this wonderful one comes along who happens to be of the sex you're attracted to, then what else can you do? @asrai
It’s hard to be alone. There’s one thing I learned in Social Welfare and that’s the importance of having human relationships, either platonic or romantic relationships. When you’ve got no friends and this wonderful one comes along who happens to be of the sex you’re attracted to, then what else can you do?

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3566 Maria Sat, 06 Sep 2008 07:10:35 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3566 @Stefanie Your advice isn't bad! I think it makes sense to unintentionally hurt the next person you would try to date in the event that you'd be put in that position. It's understandable. @Stefanie
Your advice isn’t bad! I think it makes sense to unintentionally hurt the next person you would try to date in the event that you’d be put in that position. It’s understandable.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3462 Maria Tue, 02 Sep 2008 07:23:16 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3462 @Reggy Well, a little than a month later and I can tell you that I have been trying to date. It's a little tough sometimes, but I'm trying. I know, it wasn't his intention. I don't think it's every anyone's intention, but it happened and that's just one way to look at it, not that I do very often. At least, not anymore. @Reggy
Well, a little than a month later and I can tell you that I have been trying to date. It’s a little tough sometimes, but I’m trying.

I know, it wasn’t his intention. I don’t think it’s every anyone’s intention, but it happened and that’s just one way to look at it, not that I do very often. At least, not anymore.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3461 Maria Tue, 02 Sep 2008 07:08:26 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3461 @bleuken Very true indeed. 'Love thyself', right? It's gotten better in the last month and I'm very happy for that progress. @bleuken
Very true indeed. ‘Love thyself’, right? It’s gotten better in the last month and I’m very happy for that progress.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3460 Maria Tue, 02 Sep 2008 07:07:01 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3460 @Michael Aulia It is awful hard to go back once you've already gone so far in. Hopefully I'll find someone who will understand too. @Michael Aulia
It is awful hard to go back once you’ve already gone so far in. Hopefully I’ll find someone who will understand too.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3458 Maria Tue, 02 Sep 2008 07:03:55 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3458 @Toronto SEO Yes, that is a valid point too. I think in many cases, it's a collaborative effort to figure out what both of you want and are willing to risk. @Toronto SEO
Yes, that is a valid point too. I think in many cases, it’s a collaborative effort to figure out what both of you want and are willing to risk.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3457 Maria Tue, 02 Sep 2008 05:24:26 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3457 @Stuart That's what I'm trying to do now. Either because I might want something down the road or just to clear up any confusion as to where I stand. @Stuart
That’s what I’m trying to do now. Either because I might want something down the road or just to clear up any confusion as to where I stand.

]]> By: Maria http://www.boscardin.org/2008/inability-to-love/#comment-3456 Maria Tue, 02 Sep 2008 05:19:21 +0000 http://www.boscardin.org/?p=515#comment-3456 @Marie Thank you for all the lovely points. You're right. I shouldn't look to someone to save me and I guess a month ago, that's how I was feeling. I was feeling really down and helpless, but I see that with time and investing said time in more positive things instead of wallowing, I can grow to be a more positive person. It's tough sometimes, but I'm getting there. @Marie
Thank you for all the lovely points. You’re right. I shouldn’t look to someone to save me and I guess a month ago, that’s how I was feeling. I was feeling really down and helpless, but I see that with time and investing said time in more positive things instead of wallowing, I can grow to be a more positive person. It’s tough sometimes, but I’m getting there.

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