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I think that a lot of my posts for the Blog 365 are going to be memes. But hey, at least it’s blogging, right?
Today’s meme comes from That’s My Answer!
It’s Appreciation Wednesday. Who and/or what do you appreciate today?
I appreciate knowing that there is someone who waited a year and a half for me. It makes me feel a little more special and nowadays, that’s something that I need.
I just hope that nothing catastrophic happens between us. I want to take it slow and he will definitely know that. I don’t want him to be the rebound guy at all and I seriously don’t want him to feel that way either.
I got tagged by Joana and Julie for this one. You’re supposed to copy the entire list of months, but I don’t want the clutter, so I’ll just lead you to a post that has all the other months you’ll need.
Guidelines:
- Mention the person who tagged you and create a link back to them.
- Copy-paste the traits for all the twelve months (see below).
- Pick your month of birth (see below).
- Highlight the traits that apply to you.
- Tag 12 people and let them know by visiting their blogs and leaving a comment for them.
- Let the person who tagged you know when you’ve done it!
As for tagging, well, how about I tag the first twelve people (who haven’t done this yet) that comment on this blog? I would choose people, but most of them have already been tagged.
OCTOBER: Loves to chat. Loves those who loves them. Loves to take things at the center. Inner and physical beauty. Lies but doesn’t pretend. Gets angry often. Treats friends importantly. Always making friends. Easily hurt but recovers easily. Daydreamer. Opinionated. Does not care of what others think. Emotional. Decisive. Strong clairvoyance. Loves to travel, the arts and literature. Touchy and easily jealous. Concerned. Loves outdoors. Just and fair. Spendthrift. Easily influenced. Easily loses confidence. Loves children.
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I believe that if you truly love someone, then you would never even think about cheating on that person. I admit that I have been unfaithful before, but when I think back on it, I realize that I stopped caring about the relationship at that point.
See, I was thinking back on a book I read, The Average American Male. It starts off about a guy who’s with this particular girl, but he doesn’t quite understand why he’s with her despite how much he hates her and all the things she does. (Then again, he might be with her for the security of getting sex.) Anyway, *spoiler ahead* he ends up cheating on her and thinks about cheating on her often. However, he later finds another girl and doesn’t cheat whatsoever. His wants don’t change much from girl to girl, but with the last one, he doesn’t even think about going out of his way to find another fuck.
So with that in mind, I’ve come to realize that a lot of people cheat because 1) they don’t have respect for the person they’re with and/or 2) they may or may not realize that they don’t care for their relationship.
I mean, doesn’t it make sense? Those who go out of their way to cheat either have weak morals, don’t understand themselves to realize their relationship is over, or are too cowardly to admit to the other that it’s over. I figure that if you love someone enough and if you care about someone enough, you wouldn’t even need to think twice about cheating. Sure, a lot of times, it’s unexpected, but when it’s not, then what can you conclude? And then, when it’s unexpected, you always have a choice. Even in the last second, there is always a chance to make that decision.
Anyway, that’s just my two cents. I’m sure there are other reasons as to why a person might be unfaithful.
I don’t know the statistics for it, but for a lot of women, their rapists are people that they’ve met before and/or the night of. This does not include those who walk down the street, by the way.
It makes a little bit of sense, doesn’t it? A girl goes to a party and runs into someone she’s met just once or twice. She’s drinking; he’s drinking and everything is swell… right up until they’re in a room and the guy wants sex but she doesn’t. However, she’s impaired and can’t really defend herself properly and so… in he goes.
Other times, it’s because of an abusive husband or boyfriend. The wife/girlfriend feels scared and doesn’t know what to do, so she gives in to give him what he wants, even if she doesn’t. It’s also difficult for women to run away since unfortunately, they are physically weaker than men on average.
I know that this is stuff you all might have heard or would have guessed, but I just wanted to say something about this topic because it’s been something I’ve been thinking about recently.
Why, do you ask? Because I realized that I, too, was raped. Not in the violent, stereotypical way, but I was forced to have sexual intercourse when it was quite obvious that I did not want to. Why did I do it? I was scared.
I hate myself for it too. I could have left; I could have said no. But I was scared of what he would do to himself and what he would do to me, not physically though. Long story short, he was someone I was forbidden to see and since I was staying at home with my parents at the time, I did not want him to create a scene in front of them; that was the last thing I needed.
I know that this particular rape isn’t as severe as others’, but now that I’ve had time to process it, I realize that this does qualify as rape. I absolutely loathe myself too for putting myself in this kind of a situation. I always thought that I could be strong, that if a man were to ever hit me, I’d leave.
But… I was never hit and that’s where I failed. Live and learn, folks. Live and learn.
[edit] I forgot to state my point: Don’t always trust the person you’ve met or you’re with and if you feel that the person might have some anger/emotional issues, address them as soon as possible. Don’t fool yourself like I did to myself; realize that when you don’t want to do something, you have that right, especially when it comes to intercourse.
Why is it that the “ideal” college life means partying, drugs/pot, drinking, and most of all: the single life? I’ve noticed a little more lately that many students prefer to be single, just to know what it’s like not to be tied down in college. College is freedom. Freedom from parents mostly, but does that mean freedom from romance too?
Sure, there are always those with college boy/girlfriends, but I’ve noticed that many are still single, especially those who prefer to be quite social. Is that how it’s supposed to be though? In order to be a social person, you need to be single? Or can someone be able to do both?
What is this mystery, this desire to be unattached? Is being free really all that great? I watched the season finale of Grey’s Anatomy and Christina, after Burke broke up with her, yelled out “I’m free! I’m finally free!” but broke down crying after realizing that fact. For me, the message I pulled out was that Christina didn’t want to be free, she didn’t want to be liberated. She seemed miserable.
So, what’s the deal with the single life? What’s the hype? Is it all that great anyway? Sure, you don’t have anyone to “report” to, no one else to consider but yourself, but is it worth it? Or maybe it’s the idea that for the first three years of college, it’s okay for one to be single and “fun,” but after that, it’s about finding the right person and beginning to settle down. I honestly don’t understand what’s so special about wanting to be single in college. Or maybe I don’t like that idea because being single means there are so many choices to choose from to not be single.
I don’t know what I’m saying anymore. If someone can explain the whole notion better than I can, please do so because I’m just baffled.
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