I wish that I could run into people like Rhiannon who has a different opinion than I do, but can handle it in a much more mature manner than other people.
For those who have been keeping up with the blog, then you remember the wonderful fight that happened on this blog due to a difference of opinions. I admit that I did not state mine clearly on the issue and had relied on the fact that some might pick up what my opinion was, but I know now that I can’t assume people will get it. I need explicitly state it or else it gets lost between all the mush and sarcasm.
But back to my point… so Rhiannon didn’t like the issue either and had blogged about it (she took it down due to my good behavior). I must admit that I got a bit defensive because that’s just how I am, but all of her points made sense and I understood where she was coming from. It wasn’t a bash directed towards me nor was she name-calling and making absurd assumptions about me. She carried herself in a good manner, something that I truly appreciated.
So… why can’t everybody be like that?! I’ve run into people with such strong opinions and with such rude demeanor that I really try my best to avoid them. I know that I shouldn’t have to avoid them, but what else am I going to do? Confront them? It’s like that quote, “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.” It’s the same with close-minded stubborn people. (I can be the horse sometimes too but that’s another story)
I just wish that I could just not have to associate or interact with people who really can’t handle things on a higher level. It doesn’t matter what the age is; there should be some sort of middle ground that everyone should know, right?
Anyway, that’s just a silly wish of mine.
Too many people do it too often. In my previous post, I received a nasty comment:
OMG I can’t believe you have that article up… You’re supposed to be 19. I think you need to grow up. The world is changing… You better delete that stupid article or I’ll keep on writing nasty comments.
The article in question be found here (opens in new window).
I believe that the tone is quite explicit in that article but the commentator saw the title, read a bit, then jumped to conclusions without fully processing the entire message of the article.
[Edit] Another comment for the same issue:
Judgmental. A bit. Homophobic… yep you are. I think the person who wrote that comment was absolutely right. Grow up. It’s okay to have your opinions but to a certain extent…
What is wrong with gay marriage? Certainly nothing you wrote…
And if you think I’m being “immature” think again. Look in the mirror every once in a while.
I will have a petition. And I will get tons of signatures saying you should take that stupid and judgmental article down. If you would like to contact me…feel free.
Have a couple of people “flame” my site, sure I’m all for it. But hey that means YOU’RE the immature one.
If your article is not down with in 2 days I WILL present you with my petition…
[Edit] This following statement, by far, has got to be my very favorite (the original comment is not in this post, but rather among the other comments from “Anonymous”)
…homophobia is illegal…
I’ll admit that I can often overreact sometimes or think something too quickly, but never would I ever do what this commentator did. I respect what a person wants to put on his/her own webpage. Who am I to dictate what’s there? I also respect others’ opinions, even if they differ from mine and it just peeves me that this commentator did not. Though I must admit it was quite too funny to read this in the morning to realize that the commentator completely overlooked the tone of the article.
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Another incident just happened today with a message board that I frequent. Apparently, there used to be another message board with the same name, but it died out. My board (I don’t own it, but I’ll use “mine” to distinguish) was created in January, when the other board was nonexistent. The second board, which just resurfaced in June, just realized that we had the same name, which prompted three of their members, two admins and one member, to bombard my board. One was completely uncivil and nasty; the other two admins tried to be civil about the entire situation, but by their language, they obviously were not.
Anyway, they got upset because they think my board “ripped off” the second board’s name. Seriously folks, it’s a name. It’s not a trademarked name, it’s not something that was widely popular to begin with. There are other people out there with my name, but I’m not going to bash on them, am I? No. If there was another site named “Boscardin,” I would think that it’s cool. Someone else knows about my name and thinks it’s worthy enough to use.
(As of July 23, 2007 the issue has been resolved.)
[Edit] The issue’s been… well, not exactly resolved I should say, but it’s been put down. I admit that my board and I were defensive due to the member that was completely uncivil, so there may have been some heightened emotions. It’s done with and over. Finis.
But yes, overreacting can be funny if you get to witness other people doing it. I must say I got quite a few laughs out of all of these. What would you have done had you been in my situation?
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