Posts Tagged ‘girlfriend’

(In)fidelity (3)

30.09.07

Posted under: Relationships

I believe that if you truly love someone, then you would never even think about cheating on that person. I admit that I have been unfaithful before, but when I think back on it, I realize that I stopped caring about the relationship at that point.

See, I was thinking back on a book I read, The Average American Male. It starts off about a guy who’s with this particular girl, but he doesn’t quite understand why he’s with her despite how much he hates her and all the things she does. (Then again, he might be with her for the security of getting sex.) Anyway, *spoiler ahead* he ends up cheating on her and thinks about cheating on her often. However, he later finds another girl and doesn’t cheat whatsoever. His wants don’t change much from girl to girl, but with the last one, he doesn’t even think about going out of his way to find another fuck.

So with that in mind, I’ve come to realize that a lot of people cheat because 1) they don’t have respect for the person they’re with and/or 2) they may or may not realize that they don’t care for their relationship.

I mean, doesn’t it make sense? Those who go out of their way to cheat either have weak morals, don’t understand themselves to realize their relationship is over, or are too cowardly to admit to the other that it’s over. I figure that if you love someone enough and if you care about someone enough, you wouldn’t even need to think twice about cheating. Sure, a lot of times, it’s unexpected, but when it’s not, then what can you conclude? And then, when it’s unexpected, you always have a choice. Even in the last second, there is always a chance to make that decision.

Anyway, that’s just my two cents. I’m sure there are other reasons as to why a person might be unfaithful.

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Single in College (28)

19.05.07

Posted under: Relationships

Why is it that the “ideal” college life means partying, drugs/pot, drinking, and most of all: the single life? I’ve noticed a little more lately that many students prefer to be single, just to know what it’s like not to be tied down in college. College is freedom. Freedom from parents mostly, but does that mean freedom from romance too?

Sure, there are always those with college boy/girlfriends, but I’ve noticed that many are still single, especially those who prefer to be quite social. Is that how it’s supposed to be though? In order to be a social person, you need to be single? Or can someone be able to do both?

What is this mystery, this desire to be unattached? Is being free really all that great? I watched the season finale of Grey’s Anatomy and Christina, after Burke broke up with her, yelled out “I’m free! I’m finally free!” but broke down crying after realizing that fact. For me, the message I pulled out was that Christina didn’t want to be free, she didn’t want to be liberated. She seemed miserable.

So, what’s the deal with the single life? What’s the hype? Is it all that great anyway? Sure, you don’t have anyone to “report” to, no one else to consider but yourself, but is it worth it? Or maybe it’s the idea that for the first three years of college, it’s okay for one to be single and “fun,” but after that, it’s about finding the right person and beginning to settle down. I honestly don’t understand what’s so special about wanting to be single in college. Or maybe I don’t like that idea because being single means there are so many choices to choose from to not be single.

I don’t know what I’m saying anymore. If someone can explain the whole notion better than I can, please do so because I’m just baffled.

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