I have always, always tried to hear both sides of a story, or at least leave the possibility and the mind open for that other side. Sometimes, for those closest to me, I don’t do a very good job of that.
What prompted this particular post was when I was caught off guard by a friend of mine. I care about a particular person and because of that, I normally don’t question that person’s integrity, that person’s personality. I take what I can from that person’s stories, right? Unfortunately, the other side of of the story isn’t as pleasant as it was when I had heard the first time around.
What makes us do that? We do we make that person so ideal, so perfect that after a certain point, flaws are no longer accepted? No, I can’t figure out if I had chosen to block out the flaws or if I had chosen not to look for them, but either way, they were not recognized. The other side of the story never had a chance to explain itself when it so rightly deserved the chance.
Just to get to the point here, there is always more than one side to the story and to completely close yourself off to another side is a foolish idea, a foolish action. If one side of the story doesn’t make sense, well then, it deserves some more explanation, it deserves another side, another story. What it does not deserve is another lie.
Posted under: Life
Sometimes, like now, I don’t know where I’m going. I don’t know what I have to look forward to, I don’t know what is going to happen to me. As a Libra, that is hard to handle and to grasp. I can’t stand not knowing what my future holds for me. Who am I going to meet? Am I going to meet the right people? Will he ever come? Will I be alone? Will I just end up settling? Can I get the ideal? Will I find the ideal?
It’s just all so… difficult to process. When one future ends, how do you begin the new one? When what you thought was going to happen doesn’t, then where do you start? How do you know what you truly want? Do you want a warm body regardless of who it is? Do you want the warm body? What if what you thought you wanted isn’t what you want? Or perhaps what you want is something that you can no longer have and so now, you have to change those wants? What if you don’t want to change those wants? Should you change them? What if you change them only to find out that it was the wrong decision?
Coming from a family who was always driven to not make mistakes, I don’t want to make one now, but everywhere I turn, I can see mistakes happening. If I go one way, then my mistake would be to lose something great. If I turn another way, my mistake would be to miss something great. Either way, I can see a loss and I don’t want to make either decision until I know for certain that I can’t make any mistakes.
But this is life and no matter what, there are always going to be mistakes and from that, I have to learn how to be able to work from those, right? But, like I said, I don’t want to make any whatsoever. I want to be able to take from others’ mistakes and apply them to my life so I don’t have to do the same thing. But how do you know which one to learn from?
It’s just all so confusing and as each day goes by, everything seems to get fuzzier.
If everything is fuzzy, then how can I see the beginning?
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