It’s so easy for someone to make rules that s/he wants to follow, but when that one special person comes along, all the rules get bent and broken.
So then, what’s the point of making the rules? Are the rules there to weed out the bad ones? Or because we feel that all the other relationships have been so bad that having rules makes it “safe” again.
But see, the rules get broken. Especially when someone comes along and takes your heart away, the rules get trampled on. It doesn’t always mean in a good way either. (I just want to believe it’s in the good way because I’m such a hopeless romantic.) The point is that we are so apt to make these guide lines that we believe future significant others need to follow, yet we always find a way to bend them to fit, to break them to mold.
My question is then, what’s the point? Why go through all that hassle? Or maybe, you use the rules as a measurement of how much you’re willing to change and to sacrifice for this one person.
Many of you have probably seen this before, but below is a short list of what children between the ages of four and eight said when asked, “What is love?”
- “When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”
- “When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know your name is safe in their mouth.”
- “Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”
- “Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”
- “Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”
- “Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”
- “Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”
- “Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”
- “When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.”
- “Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.”
- “You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”
Those are all examples of love, yes, but how can you tell for yourself? What’s the turning point that just makes you know that you love the other person? Is it good enough to only think that you do? What exactly makes you sure that this is the one? That no matter what happens between you two, you want to fight with your life to keep it together? Is it when you realized that you would take a bullet for them? Is it when you realize that even if s/he’s shitting in the other room, you still think it’s kind of cute? Is it when you just happen to be lying next to him/her and all you want to do is lie there forever listening to the heartbeat?
What is love?
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