Posted under: Relationships, Thoughts

Happy Saint Day to Maria Bertilla Boscardin!

This is what happens when you sleep more in an entire weekend than you would during a normal week… even after combining all the days of the week. You come up with weird analogies and have weird dreams. But I’m really here to talk about the former rather than the latter anyway.

So I’m preparing for my braces and whatnot (I know, a little late in life, but better late than never?) and since I have more teeth than my mouth is able to hold, I am forced to extract some teeth (no, this doesn’t include the wisdom teeth I had previously removed). Through all the sleeping and being drugged up this weekend, I realized that this whole process of extraction and the moving of my teeth is a lot like losing someone you love.

Hear me out: You pull out a tooth (or two… or in my case, four) and it hurts like a bitch. It leaves a weird hole in your mouth, a hole that you never had before (minus the ones from your childhood years). And after you’ve gotten the tooth pulled out, it hurts, a lot. It hurts so much that all you want to do is be drugged up for days until the pain subsides or is entirely gone. Even when the pain is gone, you’ve still got that big gap in your mouth. And then the braces start to work. They start pulling the surrounding teeth to fill up the hole. Years later, after the whole process is done, you barely notice that you once had teeth there.

Sound a little familiar? Whether it’s the loss of a friend, a family member, or someone you once loved, you always feel emptier. The pain hurts for days, even for weeks or months and all you want to do (or most people anyway) is erase the pain; make it go away. Eventually, everything else in your life starts to fill in that gap, makes you feel as if you were whole again. Sure, you’ll never be able to replace that hole, or fill it up with something you once had, but with time, you forget that you had lost something so precious to you.

Now, this isn’t typical of every relationship, every friendship, or every bond, but it felt awfully similar. Just be glad I left all the bloody and more painful details out.

Tags: holes, lost ones, Relationships, teeth extraction

Posted under: People, Thoughts

Are people really “bad” people? Technically, “bad” is a subjective term, no? For example, conservatives tend to see pre-marital sex as “bad” whereas liberals don’t always see it the same way.

I was thinking about this when a friend, MJ, mentioned that this girl, SS, wasn’t a “bad” girl. I found it a little odd to say, but I understood what she meant. See, to me, SS can be labeled as “bad” when comparing her to the social norms, but thinking about it, I don’t really hate her. Instead, MJ and I decided that SS had too many habits that clashed with our ability to be friends.

Back to the question though, are people really “bad” people? Especially if we compare them to our personal beliefs and values? If we put our personal morals aside, what would define a “bad” person? In a way, it’s all relative depending on the culture and social norms. Are there any universal norms which we can use as a base for this definition?

On a more personal level, when do you feel as if you’re a “bad” person? Does it depend on someone’s reaction and interaction with you? Or does it depend on something else? When did you feel your worst?

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Tags: bad habits, bad people, culture, friendships, good vs bad, Relationships, social norms